Started the day off bright and early, 4 AM to be exact. The limo service was picking me up at 5 AM so I needed to ready to go. Although, he could’ve picked me up a little later since the airport was completely dead when I got there at about 5:30-5:45. It took me a whopping half hour to go from the car to the gate. Even the guy at security was joking with me to pick a line cause they’re so long. I told him I should’ve gotten here earlier cause I might miss my flight due to the long lines. lol At least we both had a sense of humor that early in the morning. Even early mornings can’t stop my sarcastic, wise-ass humor. Continue reading Peru – Day 1 (5/17/17)
Ah yes, Peru. It is upon me. I knew it would sneak up on me quickly and it has. I’ve had since August to prepare but there is nothing like the last minute of getting everything ready to go to make you feel like you’ve lost your mind. At least I got the recommended shots out of the way. A few weeks ago……and a few days ago.
A trip for me. It’s all about me. And it’s the best thing ever! 12 days away from the U.S.A. and all the modernization we have to go on vacation away from, well everything. I’ll be staying in the Amazon. Without air conditioning. With the highs in the high 80s. And lots of humidity. My room has a ceiling fan. I have a feeling I will be losing about 5 pounds in just those 3 days, just in my sleep. And we will see how the food and I get along. The photos I’ve seen of the local guinea pig dish scares me. It looks like something out of the “Gremlins” movie. But, I am willing to try it. I might have to eat it fast so the demon doesn’t eat me first though. I’m willing to try anything and everything, unless it might make me sick of course, while I’m there. No expectations and just live in the moments of every day I get to spend in Peru. I’m so ready for this!
We’ve all heard stories of kids bullying other kids. We hear of the mental anguish it causes the child being bullied, sometimes to the point they commit suicide. Schools across the country have put zero tolerance for bullying policies in place to combat the problem, or at least try to control it. But what happens when the bullying is coming from a teacher to a student? Shouldn’t there be even less tolerance for that? I’ve looked through some anti-bullying policies and have found that no where do they say teachers are exempt from the policy. In fact, I have seen things that state using power, which to me, implies the teacher or other authority at the school. So why haven’t we heard more about bullying from teachers to students? Because the schools don’t want that kind of thing getting out. Well, too bad because it’s about to come out.
My family is dealing with this right now. My oldest nephew has been bullied all year long by his math teacher. He just turned 14 and is in 8th grade. He loves, or did, math and loves science. He has been in honors math since elementary school and was placed in honors everything in junior high. His math teacher has been causing him problems all year. She singles him out in class and nit picks every little thing about him, in front of his fellow classmates. This has happened to the point where other kids in his class have approached him and stated something down the lines of “She must really hate you.” My nephew is a type 1 diabetic and has, what is called, a 504 plan in place at the school. Basically what it does is allow him exceptions so he can take care of his blood glucose levels as needed, as well as other exceptions. His math teacher has not followed the 504 plan, which by the way is a legal document, which also falls under the Americans with Disabilities Act. She has not followed this plan multiple times and has even lied about it, which my sister has proof of. My nephew wants to be an engineer and was planning on taking honors geometry so he could take honors chemistry in high school. Because this teacher refuses to recommend him for honors geometry, he can’t take honors chemistry. She recommended it for one of the kids in his class who was getting the same grade he was. She claims she never gets his homework, which is done online, even though we all watch him do it and submit it. So, he gets zeros for homework. She also grades the homework and will mark him down excessively for minor things, like not showing work. He recently got marked down 2 points on something for not showing all the work. She also had made him take his lunch hour to make up tests or homework he had missed due to his diabetes. He would come home with most of his lunch uneaten because he didn’t have time to eat it. These are just a few of the issues my nephew and family have been dealing with. It has caused my nephew to lose his self confidence. He plays baseball and football and excels at both. This year, watching him play baseball, he is not the same. He says he sucks all the time, no matter how good he does. This teacher has not just bullied my nephew, she has mentally abused him. My family has met with the school on multiple occasions to get this fixed, to no avail. In fact, it makes the situation worse. Now, he is seeing a therapist and she’s now getting involved and talking to the school.
This brings me to the point of, why isn’t the school providing a safe place for the students? Why are they not advicating for the student’s well being, both physically all and mentally? This is a school, not a fucking prison!! These are kids who are there to learn, not be bullied and abused by the very people who are supposed to be advocates against bullying and abuse. Teachers are supposed to report cases of abuse to authorities and it’s taken care of. But no one wants to help a child who is being abused and bullied by their teacher. This is the most absurd, fucked up thing in the world. Teachers are supposed to help kids learn and grown, not push them down and steal their innocense and self worth. Why are these people allowed near our kids?! Why are the schools not being held accountable for these teachers and doing something about these issues?
The school district my nephew is in, is also the one my sister and I went through. It’s also a district that is coming under fire from students speaking out at the high school level about the demands and pressures the teachers at the high school level are placing on students. The mental anguish, stress, and anxiety being placed on these kids isn’t just at the high school level, it’s in the junior high now too. This district is about to have more than their hands full once things with my nephew’s case get rolling too. Maybe they should end teacher tenure so they have a way to let go of the bullies and not use the excuse they can’t. Abuse and bullying should not be tolerated at any level by anyone within a school setting, period. Teachers should not be an exception to that rule!
This past week, I started to realize how much things are connected. I came to the realization that I am a lightworker the week before last. In figuring that out, I am learning so much more about myself than I had ever known before. Things are not always as they seem. Let me explain.
Here are some songs that I have related to in some way or have given me inspiration. These are the lyrics and all credits are provided with each song.
I have been through a lot of shit. I have been abused mentally, physically, and emotionally. Verbally/emotionally is probably the hardest I’ve endured because it cuts to the core. Physically, the wounds heal, you move on. Emotionally, the wounds never quite heal the way they should. But for me, it has made me stronger. I am built tougher than anyone. Sure, I cry quite a bit but that doesn’t make me emotionally weak. On the contrary, it’s what keeps me strong. Continue reading Still Standing
“You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them”. – Iyanla Vanzant
I know a lot of people who run and hide from life, from themselves. They run to a bottle, drugs, negative people because it takes away the problems or feelings for a minute. Makes them feel good for a second. They turn to substance or negative people to bury their problems. The problem with that, is the problems don’t go away, they just get bigger and keep adding up. The more problems, the more drugs, drinking, relying on other negative people to make it go away. You can’t just brush something under the rug because you don’t want to deal with it. That’s a big sign of not only weakness but you don’t know who you are.