Wow!! What a year it has been! So many amazing happenings. It didn’t start off so great and it’s not ending on the greatest note, but that’s ok. Not every day is going to be awesome.
Just some thoughts that came into my brain. You all know me, I get a thought and I just write it out. It’s been a while since I’ve written anything so it was just a matter of time. For all you romantics out there, here you go.
Life is like a curb that comes out of no where. You’re just walking along, doing your thing and the next thing you know, you are stepping off the curb. It’s never an easy step either, it’s a jolt you weren’t expecting. Same thing with life. One minute you are doing your thing and the next, a jolt shakes you. It doesn’t even have to be anything big, a curb is what, 6″ and that feels like a 100′ cliff sometimes.
I’m a pretty happy, positive and upbeat person in general. But every once in a while, ok ok, almost once or twice a month, life reminds me I’m still human. I have what I am starting to call human moments. You know those moments I’m talking about. When things might not be going totally as you want but you end up all emotional cray cray instead of just rolling with it, like you usually do. Normally you’d be all “Oh well, just gonna go with it and see what happens” but your emotions have a different plan and go all emotional on your ass to the point even you tell yourself to stop it and to get your shit together! Yeah, those human moments.
I decided to call those moments human moments for a reason. I have come to the conclusion that these moments are the Universe’s way of saying “Hey Spirit being in the body named T, you are still human, remember?!” So, it sends me these reminders that even though I am a Spirit and Universal energy, I am in a human body that has human feelings and emotions. I have learned from this, that, it’s ok. It’s ok to go through the moments. We have to. It’s all part of the process. I have also learned that you need to let the emotions in. You need to feel them and sit in them for a moment. But you also have to keep from staying in them. Feel them. Let them sit. Then let them go. It’s been working for me so far. Especially when I give myself a pep talk during it and saying “What the fuck is wrong with you?! This is not you! Pull yourself together already, would ya?!” That seems to do the trick.
Human moments aren’t bad. They are lessons. They are apart of life. Let them come in. Then let those bitches go!
It’s funny how much things can change and how fast. Just a year ago I was in a very bad place. I didn’t care to live anymore. I was getting over a breakup and life just seemed so dark and hopeless. I didn’t think I could get out of it. I had hit the lowest of lows and found myself contemplating suicide. The breakup sent me into a very hard and fast downward spiral. Somehow. Someway, I found a way to bounce back, just like everytime before. I thank the Universe and all the higher beings for helping me get through those times because there is no way I did that alone. Don’t get me wrong, I’m strong as hell but even I know I had help.
That brings me to the present. I moved to Colorado a little over a month ago. I didn’t have a plan in place and have been winging it. No expectations. No plans. Just do what feels right at the time. And you know what? It has been the best thing I have ever done. Making the decision and putting it into action has been the best best for me. I finally feel like I’m home. I finally feel like I belong. I am meeting some really cool people and have made amazing friends. I have found peace within and with my life. I am finally living my way. I have this sense of freedom which has given me a calmness I’ve never known before. I am doing more than I have ever done in Chicago. Everyday is a journey. I am being me. I am doing my thing, even though I don’t know what exactly that is, but I’m doing it. It’s ok to not know what it is because it’s anything and everything.
I have been having such a great time and enjoying life. I am going out and doing things alone, with friends, with my dog. It doesn’t matter who I’m with or without, although I have to say, I have some amazing people in my life who I really enjoy their company and love being around so it’s always nice to do things with them. I am doing things I never felt comfortable doing back in Chicago. I just got home from being downtown alone. It’s at night but I have no fear of being alone downtown. I have pretty damn good intuition so if I ever felt like I wasn’t safe, you know I would find a way to be safe. I am continuing to learn and grow. I am better than I have ever been and each day I get better. Everyday has brought me new experiences, learning, growing, freedom. I love being me and being alone with my dog. But, that doesn’t mean I don’t want a girlfriend at some point. Seems like the girls like me around here. For me, it’s a matter of taking my time, getting to know someone and letting things develop as they are meant to. Hell, I am so laid back and chill now that if it came along now, I think I’d be good with it. But, things will happen as they are meant to and I’m perfectly good with that. I am strong enough to know I don’t need someone but that doesn’t mean I don’t want someone special in my life, just maybe not right now, or maybe now. Who knows what will come my way in a few days, weeks, or months. I’m in a new place physically, emotionally, spiritually, in ever way and it’s been awesome.
Life is beautiful. I found my unicorn and have finally been able to ride it over the rainbow! I know it’s cheesey but I don’t care. I made it through the worst storms of my life and get to enjoy the sun and rainbows that follow. Life is amazing when you set yourself free!
It’s almost been a month since I packed up and left Chicago to live in Colorado. If you would’ve told me a year ago that my life was going to be amazing, I would not have believed it. I have not had an easy road getting to this point but I’m glad I stuck by my own side and pushed through.
Anyone who has felt hopeless, and not able to see the light at the proverbial tunnel, I get it. I’ve been there. And it wasn’t just a bad day, or a week, month, or year. We’re talking years. From a bad marriage to bad relationships to people I care about dying and having to put one of my dogs down right after a bad break up. Yeah, I have had a lot of rough and tough times. Many of which, I had wished at the time, I could just escape. I have been very honest about myself and this is no different.
During my years of hell, I had many times I just wanted to end it all. I saw no end in sight. I felt hopeless. I didn’t think my life would ever get better or “go my way” as so many of us put it. But let me tell you something, I am living proof that it does get better. After wanting to kill myself for what was about the 5-6 time, I knew something had to change. And I knew that change was me and my situation. I have always been pretty spiritual and even last year was more so than ever before. But, it wasn’t some miracle that I kept from ending my life. It was me, fighting for myself. It took every ounce of strength and positivity to pull myself out of it. I meditated a lot. I was searching for answers. And I finally got the message I needed to start healing and living my life my way. Suicide is in our genetic make up. It’s predispositioned in our cellular make up. The only way to end the cycle is to not go through with it, which I hadn’t and it was after wanting to that I found this information. This allowed me to have direction. I knew what I needed to do. I needed to heal myself spiritually which will in turn heal me physically, emotionally, mentally. So, that’s why I did. I started to heal in everyway.
Everything from my past, I am so very grateful for. Every last bit of it. You might think I’m crazy but I wouldn’t change any of it for anything. The reason being, I wouldn’t be who and where I am today if even one tiny piece of my past was different. And today, I am not creating dreams that I hope will come true one day, I’m living my dreams.
I moved to Colorado almost a month ago and immediately felt like I was home. I have had a few rough patches already but I’m stayed positive and pushed through it. Just like pushing through all the negativity and difficult times of wanting to kill myself, I have come out of it. It was a lot easier this time because I am good with myself. I am good with my life. I am taking every day and living for each moment. I am grateful to be where I am at. I came out here not really having any idea of where I was really headed. I had a job waiting and a place to stay (which I am forever grateful for) but other than that, I said I would figure things out once I get here. Well, I’m here and it’s taken a little less than a month to figure it out. I know where I want to be and know where I want my life to go. This is my rainbow at the end of my long and treacherous storm that almost took my life from me.
It may have been a long and hellish road to get here but I made it. I am not the same person I used to be. I have learned, grown, healed, and found out who I am and what I am made of. Nothing in this life happens by chance, it happens for a reason. We may not know or be able to see that reason or reasons right away but after time has passed, we can look back and say, “I get it now”. Everything has led me to where I am meant to be. I wanted to end my life so I could be free from the hurt and the pain but that wasn’t the freedom I needed. Now, I can honestly say, I am free!
I stuck with my life and I found my rainbow. I have been riding that slide like a boss! Life is hard. It breaks you down; chews you up and spits you out. Life isn’t easy. It’s a roller coaster you want to get off of a lot of times but I’m here to tell you, it’s not worth it. It’s worth staying buckled in and riding it. Even when it doesn’t seem like the lows won’t turn into highs it only lowers, believe me, the highs are coming. But you have to look within for change and guidence if you want the outer to change too. Your rainbow and freedom are waiting for you to, and not in the after life, it’s right here!
I spent the weekend in Denver and the surrounding areas. I am going to be moving out there in a few weeks, job or no job. That doesn’t matter to me anymore. My own happiness is what matters. And it’s priceless. But, there is one thing I have learned from all of this. The people I am surrounded by, my family and friends, are very unhappy and miserable. Let me explain how I know this.
When you are happy with yourself, your life, the people in your life, you don’t keep trying to find more materialistic things. You don’t set out to find happiness in things. You start seeing happiness in everything and you don’t require anything to make you happy. You can’t take your car, your house, your money, your big screen TV, etc with you when you die. But, you can leave this realm with knowledge, experiences, love, understanding, and happiness. When you are truly happy, you don’t care about a job, a paycheck, a car, a house, a phone, etc. What you do care about is yourself, experiences, the people you surround yourself with, living every moment like it’s your last, loving with all you have without expectations, growing, learning, and being free to be yourself and do those things which bring joy into you and your life.
When you aren’t happy, you focus on things. You focus on the next car, the next house and making sure it’s bigger and better than the current one, how much money you have in the bank, looking for a better job (although this can also be a sign of happiness, it just depends on if you are actually truly happy doing what you’re doing in the first place), getting a bigger TV, making big purchases, etc. All things which are temporary and don’t actually do anything to make you happy. True happiness can’t be bought because it comes from within yourself. This is why so many people can’t figure out why that new regridgerator or TV or sound system or car doesn’t make them happy after a month and it now is just an added expense so they now don’t like those things and they are back to feeling unhappy and miserable again. If you want to be truly happy, then stop focusing your attention on things and focus it on yourself.
I know I am surrounded by a lot of very unhappy people. I just want them all to know that instead of chasing after things that only have a temporary happiness attached to them, why not just do what makes you happy, even if it means sticking with the car, job, pay, TV, etc you already have and see what happens. Surround yourself with people you enjoy being around and who make life enjoyable because leaving those people will be the hardest thing you could ever do. I know, I am going through that right now. I know they will always have my back and maybe someday, their true happiness will bring them to the same physical location as myself. It hurts me to see people I love and care about not being happy. So I write this for all of you because I love and care about all of you and just want you to find peace and happiness.
I also know that by living in your head all the time does not work. You have to clear the garbage your brain is saying, out, and let your true self in. The brain and your instinct (or true self) are not usually on the same page. Clear out the brain noise and it will be quiet enough to hear what it is that will make you truly happy. The brain is not true to you. It plays games and messes with you. That’s why it’s sometimes hard to make decisions. But your true self will always know the right thing and what you need or want. Liste to it. It’s not going to steer you wrong. Afterall, it is you, not your brain giving you the answers. Connect with yourself and find out what you really want or need. I, myself, have given up a lot of great opportunities, both job and personal wise. It sucks but knowing how happy I am and by not taking those opportunities, I know for a fact, I would not be where I am today. I would not be the amazing and incredible person I have turned into, if it wasn’t for passing up those chances. Sometimes I do feel like I made a bad decision but then I look at where I am at and the experiences I have had since, and I know I made the best decision of my life passing it up. Sometimes what seems like a great opportunity isn’t the great opportunity but what happens after it that turns out to be the greatest opportunity of all.
So, I was watching a show and it triggered my little brain into deep thinking. It really doesn’t take much. Anyway, it got me thinking about life and why so many people sit on the sidelines of their own lives, just watching life pass by. This is what goes through my head.
You can live life one of two ways:
1. You can sit back and watch it pass by with nothing really going on. Just day to day, same old stuff. Wishing you were out doing something that you heard or saw someone else do. Or……
2. You can go out and live each day like you won’t get another one. Go out and do the things that you love to do, want to do, or just feel like doing for the hell of it. Do what makes you happy.
Another day is not guaranteed. Living everyday as though it’s your last, in my opinion, is the only real option we have because today may just be your last. Don’t be there about to die regretting not doing enough, not loving more, etc. Don’t die wondering what could’ve been, might have been or should have been. Don’t live your life thinking about the what ifs in life and just go out and do it. There are endless possibilities in life if you open yourself up to them.
Love more and harder. Why be scared of something wonderful? Why? Because if it doesn’t work out you’ll be hurt? But why risk losing love in any form? In a world full of hate, why not open yourself up to love and let it in?
Taking chances opens up opportunities and allows us to learn and grow. If we sit back and are too afraid of what might be (in a negative sense) we can lose out on some pretty amazing experiences and people. Fear of pain is what stops so many of us. When you can clear yourself of the negatives associated with fear and pain, you can live freely. You open your life up to endless possibilities. And that, that’s the real secret to life. Letting go of the fears, pain, negative ways of thinking. Stop limiting yourself to what you want or think you can do. Go out and just do it! Make it happen for yourself. It will be worth it, no matter what the outcome.